|The following is from a 1950's Home
Economics textbook intended for the High School girls, teaching how to prepare for married
- Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal - on
time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are
concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a
good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
- Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives.
Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been
with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring
day may need a lift.
- Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main pan of the house just before
your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth
over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it
will give you a lift too.
- Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if they
are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little
treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
- Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer,
dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him.
Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
- Some DON'TS:
Don't greet him with problems or complaints.
Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might
have gone through that day.
- Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down
in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to
take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax
- Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is
not the time. Let him talk first.
- Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other
places of entertainment; instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure and
his need to be home and relax.
- The Goal:
Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.
|Now the updated
version for the 90's woman.
- Have dinner ready: Make reservations ahead of time. If your
day becomes too hectic just leave him a voice mail message regarding where you'd like to
eat and at what time. This lets him know that your day has been crappy and gives him an
opportunity expect your change in moods.
- Prepare yourself: A quick stop at the Lancombe
counter on your way home (Don't forget to use his credit card!) will do wonders for the
way you look, as well as your outlook; and will keep you from becoming irritated during
dinner by every little breach of table manners.
- Clear away the clutter: Call the housekeeper and let her know
you'll need her for an extra day this week. Tell her that any miscellaneous items left on
the floor by your husband or the children can be placed in the Goodwill box in the garage,
which she can drop off on her way home.
- Prepare the children, if you have any (with your busy career).
Have him drop them off at grandma's on his way to meet you for dinner.
- Minimize the noise: When he arrives at home speak in a low,
soft, soothing voice when you remind him that the washer and garbage disposal are still
not working properly and the noise is driving you crazy, especially given your
predisposition to PMS (and remember to greet him with a warm smile.. this way he might fix
- Some DON'TS:
Don't greet him with problems and complaints. Let him speak first, and then he won't have
anything to say about your complaints and they will get more attention and remain fresh in
his mind throughout dinner. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Simply remind him that
youtoo have a career, and that the last one home does the cooking and cleanup.
- Make him comfortable: Remind him where he can find a warm
fuzzy blanket if he's cold. This will really show you care.
- Listen to him: But don't ever let him get the last word in.
- Make the evening his: giving him a chance to get the washer
and garbage disposal fixed.
- The Goal:
To try to keep things amicable, while reminding him that you too have a career, and by the
way, make more money than he does.